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      Life let you down again? Congratulations – you’re growing

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian • 7 April

    Rather than running away from disappointment, we need to face it and learn from it. Otherwise we will never try anything new

    I don’t remember the context in which my psychoanalyst first brought to my attention how much I hate to feel disappointed. I do remember that I laughed. Who doesn’t hate it? That’s why it’s called disappointment, as Seinfeld would say.

    But then I reflected on what she had said, and it really made me think.

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      How the 25-year mystery of Baby Callum’s death came to an end

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian • 6 April

    Three detectives involved in the investigation speak of their relief at finally solving the puzzle

    Detective constable Beth Colbourne was walking out of Chester crown court when she got the email that brought an end to one of the longest baby death mysteries in recent times. It started: “Are you sitting down?”

    As an officer in Cheshire constabulary’s major crime review team, Colbourne had been tasked with solving a puzzle that had confounded police for 25 years: who was Baby Callum ?

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      ‘A beautiful discovery’: how woodworking is helping people carve out inner peace

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian • 6 April

    The craft is gaining popularity among those in search of a way to slow down, switch off and improve mental health

    Woodcarving is gaining in popularity among those who want to whittle away their anxieties and carve out time for themselves amid life’s hurly-burly.

    Samuel Alexander’s peaceful carving reels on Instagram now have more than 56,000 followers, and his meditative YouTube videos regularly generate more than 60,000 views.

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      Feeding the soul: Laurie Woolever on food, addiction – and working with Anthony Bourdain

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian • 6 April • 1 minute

    Working alongside NY’s hottest chefs took its toll on Laurie Woolever, but in a new memoir she opens up about her battles with drinking, drugs – and losing her friend

    Laurie Woolever is an expert on indulgence. The first time we met was in a dimly lit omakase restaurant in downtown Tokyo, in the summer of 2017. We were both in Japan on respective work trips. Woolever was researching a travel book she was writing with her boss, the chef Anthony Bourdain, and I was filming a CNN digital spin-off series from his Parts Unknown show. We were introduced through mutual friends in New York, where I had been living that year, and where her reputation preceded her. She was known to be private, tough, with a wickedly dry sense of humour. I was a little intimidated.

    As she expertly navigated a seven-course tasting menu of wagyu beef with her chopsticks, she casually mentioned that she’d recently stopped drinking, alluding to the fact it had become out of control. I self-consciously sipped my own cold beer, picked up sweet strips of marbled meat and couldn’t help thinking how tricky giving up drinking must have been, both because of her job as the then long-term assistant to Bourdain – one of the most rock’n’roll food personalities of our time – but also being immersed in a fast-paced New York food scene where drinking to excess was the norm. What I didn’t realise until reading her new memoir, Care and Feeding , was that while Woolever wasn’t drinking, she was still seeking hits of illicit pleasure. A few days after our dinner, she hired a Japanese male sex worker to join her for an “erotic massage” at her hotel. A clinical act to numb the discomfort she felt, trapped in an unhappy marriage without alcohol to smooth over the cracks.

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      Christian missionary group accused of public shaming and rituals to ‘cure’ sexual sin

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian • 5 April

    Exclusive: young volunteers also allege spiritual abuse and controlling behaviour at bases of Youth With a Mission

    The world’s biggest youth Christian missionary organisation is facing allegations of spiritual abuse and controlling behaviour from young people who say they were left “traumatised”.

    An Observer investigation has revealed evidence of safeguarding failings within Youth With a Mission (YWAM), a global movement that trains young Christians to spread the gospel. A spokesperson for YWAM said the organisation was “heartbroken” by the claims and was “deeply committed to the safety and wellbeing” of everyone in its care.

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      Does the UK have a mental health overdiagnosis problem?

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian • 5 April

    Mental ill health has been cited as a factor in the welfare overhaul, and experts agree it has worsened since the pandemic

    When the health secretary, Wes Streeting, suggested the “overdiagnosis” of some mental health conditions was a factor in the government’s welfare changes, many saw the comments as playing into an unhelpful culture-war stereotype of coddled millennials – and as echoing Rishi Sunak’s claim, a year ago, that there was a “sicknote culture” plaguing Britain’s economy.

    But media coverage of Dr Suzanne O’Sullivan’s recent book, The Age of Diagnosis , has amplified and lent credibility to the idea that a diagnosis, in itself, can risk limiting an individual’s life prospects.

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      Free online virtual reality tool helps people tackle public speaking nerves

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian • 15 March

    Cambridge scientist behind VR platform says it could help those put off by high cost of speech anxiety treatment

    A free online platform that allows speakers to practise in front of thousands of virtual spectators has been released to help with the anxiety many feel when presenting to an audience.

    Dr Chris Macdonald, the founder of the Immersive Technology Lab at Cambridge University and who created the online platform, said the approach was an attempt to reduce the lengthy waits or high costs people often face when seeking help.

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      MPs warn No 10: frontbenchers could quit over disability benefits plan

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian • 14 March

    Labour MPs suggest backlash means Starmer cannot push ahead with freeze on some personal independence payments

    No 10 has been warned it could face frontbench resignations if it follows through with plans to freeze some disability benefits – a move that would require a vote in parliament.

    Labour MPs have been particularly alarmed by a refusal, both in private and in public, by the prime minister and others in cabinet to commit to not cutting help for the most vulnerable disabled people who cannot work.

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      ‘Talk about it, focus on your values and … stay stoic’: how to cope with rejection

      news.movim.eu / TheGuardian • 14 March

    From the workplace to romance to friends, everything you need to know about rejection – and how to move on from it

    Rejection is an inevitable part of the human experience, but despite suffering major and minor rebuffs throughout our lives, every time it happens still feels painful. From the first “no thanks” from someone you fancy at school to the kick in the stomach of a “we have decided to move forward with another candidate” letter, every rejection dents our ego.

    Humans are hardwired to crave acceptance. “It’s in our blood,” says Hilda Burke, a psychotherapist, couples counsellor and author. In early human societies, she explains, “to be rejected by your community would have posed a serious threat, as individuals did not have the resources to survive alone. We are pack animals.”

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